Amidst stories of scandal and heartbreak, couples are also sharing the joy that has been given to them by Ukraine surrogates.
For many couples that struggle with infertility, the heartbreak and hard decisions that go hand in hand with the ordeal are often in dire need of a bright story. Surrogacy often gets a bad rap in modern media, with stories of broken dreams and exploitative practice.
What doesn’t seem to make the headlines as often are the stories of what happens when it does work out. When couples get everything they’ve ever dreamed of and the surrogates that help them walk away joyous, knowing they’ve helped in a way that not many people can.
“What makes surrogacy so popular an option when there are few others, is that it does indeed work out. In fact, it works out far more often than it fails.” Says ilaya, a firm voice and agency that helps couples throughout their surrogate journey. Ilaya helps to manage family planning all over the world and has a clinic in Ukraine. “Surrogacy Ukraine is just one of many programs throughout the world. Their medicine, practice, and law are some of the most favorable you can find. Happily helping all those involved”
Robert and Sophie
America, Intended Parents
“We had always wanted a child of our own. Because of complications with my… parts, I wasn’t able to conceive. My husband and I went back and forth for ages about what it was we should do. We thought about adopting, but based on the time it would take, and the money it would cost, we decided we wanted to try for a child of our own instead.
“Leading up to the surrogacy was a nightmare. I remember dealing with all of the treatments and all of the disappointments. It was really hard for me to believe that surrogacy would work. My husband and I did a load of research. We talked to family members, friends, I went online and spoke with couples that had gone through the process themselves. After all the reading, we decided the process was worth it. Once we met with our agency, we felt even more hopeful that it would work.
“It was the most difficult when the first round of IVF didn’t take. We actually considered giving up entirely, but it was our surrogate that really helped us through the process. She is a Ukrainian surrogate and an absolutely beautiful woman. She talked us through the worst of it, and helped us gather the courage to go for round two. I’m so happy she did, because we now have a son, and I can’t imagine my life without him.”
Tara
Ukraine, Surrogate
“I watched my sister struggle to have a child for years. She was not able to have this dream. She would not take a surrogate for her own reasons. Whether or not I agree with her choice, I saw it was hard. I have a good job in an office, I have a beautiful family. I have many wonderful things. I saw a talk about surrogacy Ukraine, about how it was helping the economy, and how the need for children wasn’t just for Ukraine.
“I immediately applied with an agency in Kiev. It is simple for me because this is where I live and work. My husband is very supportive. He says he loves me pregnant because I am at my most beautiful then. I felt so happy in my heart when I was accepted. It was not easy to apply, but it was worth every moment. I was matched with a German couple. When we met, they seemed sad, and a little frightened, I think. Once I became pregnant, something in them grew. It was beautiful to see their hope grow along with my belly.
“I delivered a beautiful baby girl with them. They were so happy, a light in them. There was a sadness when they left, but only because I had become close with them, and would have had them stay with us forever. But they write. Send photos. My heart is full of them. They are still grateful, and I am forever happy that I could help them in this way.”
John & Sara
Scotland, Intended Parents
“My wife and I had trouble making children of our own. We’d been married for four years and trying well enough. We had several miscarriages. Each more difficult than the last. We chose to go see another doctor, as the first one we went to couldn’t seem to get us any good answers for what we were suffering. The next doctor we spoke with told us that it was impossible for my wife to become pregnant. I wasn’t sure that hearing the news was any better than trying with futility.” -John
“It was very hard on us both, I think. But we kept going and kept looking. I think that once my husband convinced me to see a second doctor, it made me realize that there were many more options available to us than originally thought. A friend of mine had read some article or another on surrogacy and urged me to join a few online groups. That was maybe the brightest moment of the whole thing for me. Talking to all the other women and couples who had been through something similar.
“We chose to go through Ukraine surrogacy for the finances at first. But as we kept looking into it, we realized the laws in Ukraine were perfectly suited for what we needed. It was a really wonderful experience. The staff, the doctors, they were all really fantastic. I don’t think that any part of the process was easy or comfortable, exactly. But there were parts that were very exciting. And scary. And… I don’t know. Intense, I guess. But once we met our surrogate, most of my worries were pretty much removed.” – Sara
“Well, except for every part of the pregnancy. We got notice of every step of it, which was sincerely wonderful. We couldn’t wait to get the next ultrasound photo. We got every single one. It was a dream. Our children were happy, healthy. They had such a wonderful bearing. Like my wife said, our surrogate couldn’t have been more kind and wonderful. We owe her everything we have. Including the twins.” -John
